A couple of months ago I had a lovely break away over on the East coast with some girlfriends. We enjoyed long walks and chats, tasty meals and pottering around. We visited a market in Byron bay, full of craft stalls, wood wittlers and kaftans. Amongst other things, I bought a face cloth that removes makeup without soap or solutions. It did draw me in too as was purple!!
Ofcourse I left leave it behind, hanging up in my friend’s shower, which she kindly posted onto me.
It felt good to meet the maker, buy local and support a local business. So when I got home, I thought I’d buy some more. I checked the label to see if I could track down the smiley lady I bought it from. Only to find it was made in China and 100% polyester, not micro fibre like I’d believed.
It took the shine right out of it. Not only was it not authentic and made with her fair hands, it was shipped from China and probably made unethically.
Although I’ll still use it, as wasting goes against my Yorkshire ethics of “don’t waste anything”, I will in future check the label and make sure I’m supporting a local business.
As you can tell I’m disappointed and a little outraged, so much so I wrote a blog about it 🙂
Sometimes, things aren’t what they seem. You could be sold what you think is a golden goose, but really is a chicken with glitter on.
What’s important, is not that you made a mistake or was led down a path by someone pretending to be something they weren’t. It’s how you show up for yourself when you realise it. Blame and shame for doing the “wrong” thing or being deceived keeps us trapped in the cycle. Acknowledging things aren’t as they were or not serving us anymore and setting clearer boundaries for ourselves can be the key to feeling empowered and better about ourselves.
It might just be a cloth, but it did spark memory of when someone deceived me into believing something that wasn’t real, but it was just a smoke screen. I had to remove myself, as speaking up wasn’t an option at the time. Sometimes we can communicate and compromise, but other times we have to know our worth and move on.
Know your truth and your worth.
Much peace
Karen