There’s no doubt about it, we all need a bit of rest and relaxation in order to replenish our energy reserves and more forward with purpose.
I’ve just had a week off to do just that. My Mum is visiting from the UK and it’s school holidays, so I’ve been enjoying the different pace of no packed lunches to make, no being there at a certain time and mostly no alarm clock. Though with a big puppy in our house, there’s still some early morning calls. But then going back to bed with a cuppa and a book, isn’t too shabby.
But how do we know when to check in on our energy reserves?. Are you running on adrenalin all week and crashing at the weekend with nothing left for friends and family, but most of all yourself. It’s important to check your boundaries. By that I mean, when someone asks you to do something, or you volunteer, or you simply think it’s your duty to do a certain task, just pause for a moment. Ask yourself the questions “is this (fill in the blank) going to serve me well?, do I want to do this?” and just sit with the vibrations of the questions. Let the true answer come to you. You might be surprised how you feel.
Quite often we run on subconscious habits and actions, autopilot if you like. But when we take the time to ask our selves what do I want to do, how will I feel doing (whatever task)? We can be enlightened to our true purpose.
But like with most things, once you turn the light on the subject, you have to be prepared to see the truth. If people around you are used to you saying yes to everything, when you realise that it’s ok to say no, their actions and reactions can be quite enlightening. You maybe ready for change, but they might not be. It could cause them to feel uncomfortable and they could try to persuade you to do what they feel you should be doing. But remember, they’re uncomfortable within themselves, which is not your responsibility.
“I’m responsible to others, I’m responsible for myself”
This is a small hack, that can bring about profound changes. Let the start of this week, be the start of using the “no” word more often. As Oprah Winfrey said “No is a complete sentence” It doesn’t have to be “No, because I’m already busy, but I might be able to fit it in later” or “Do you mind if I say no this time, because ……”
I’ve changed things around in my life where I ask myself, do I really want to do this or go there, spend time these people, compromise my free time or do I want to do this instead?. Our brains love puzzles. Asking your mind a question and taking a few breathes to feel the answer is a wonderful way of finding and owning your own truth.
I love the work I do with clients, assisting change in their lives to find their truth. I’ve helped hundreds of people recognise and release their negative beliefs and programming, so they become free and feel lighter. It’s the shackles that bind us and hold us down from finding our own freedom. Sometimes a problem does need to ferment for a while before a long term solution can be found. Many people stay in difficult situations and relationships until they have enough wind beneath their wings to fly. But once they do realise their true worth, when the jewel inside them has been polished and is shining brightly, they become a beacon of light, attracting like minded and worthy people to them. Their energy radiates and grows, along with confidence and self worth.
So what’s your shackle that binds you?. Is it a difficult relationship from your past, that’s not real anymore, but still lives like an unwelcome guest in your head?. Are other relationships repeating the same patterns? Is it a limiting belief about yourself, that has gone unchallenged and probably wasn’t your idea, it was someone that gave you this label from an early age or in a first romantic relationship?. Or are you not sure why you feel the way you do, have the physical or emotional pain or have negative thought patterns and behaviours?.
When we have the WILL to change, we can learn the SKILL.
Asking for help can be a daunting and unknown path. But if you have the will to feel different, I can teach you the step by step to learn the skill. Releasing and letting go doesn’t have to be a big task either. I’ve developed a gentle technique with a unique blend of mindfulness, movement and massage. Then you get some homework, but it’s the good kind, you’ll want to do it. It’s not like maths at school 🙂
Just imagine what you can achieve when you believe in yourself.
Warm smiles
Karen
Kasona – be happy, stress less
www.kasona.com.au
0414 973394